Obsessors... who are they?

"Remember your pursuers with consoling mercy, laboring to benefit them with forgiveness. Evoke them in your intercessory prayers, which it will reach them in the form of solace and hope. Help them, for your time, like yesterday you were helped by other hearts of whom you do not you remember." (Joanna de Angelis)

Let us remember how much affection we have for our obsessors. We forget how much pain they lead in the chest and it is not only hate, because they have, like all of us, a human side, though hardened by the desire for revenge.

Imagine how much love one has for them. A mother, a father, a son, siblings, friends... A feeling of pity can smooth the desperate souls of those who hate us. This is the love that you can feel for the obsessors, even if we are still far away from reconciliation.

Ordinarily, the obsessors are also obsessed. Vigorous minds keep them captive a parasitizing influence in exchange of supervision and support of other obsessors that are associated with them. Needless to say they are really unfortunate brothers and that the most dangerous hide a void in the heart waiting for the salve to crave. They need the obsessed to harvest energy that supports them.

We believe that Jesus expects us to love our enemies with a tender love, with affection and care.

"It is natural that we have adversaries but not enemies." (André Luiz)

There are opponents who are estimated each other, or at least respect each other without any animosity. Transform an enemy to an opponent is a first step towards forgiveness, since we have already forgiven.

Forgiveness means liberation from the shackles of hatred. But if we forgive our opponent and he does not, it is expected the obsessive bond disposes of course, unless the trial should continue.

"It is with gentleness that should correct opponents, in the hope that God will grant them repentance to know the truth and return to common sense, getting rid of the devil’s traps, to whose will they are subject." (2 Timothy 2: 25-26)

Many times our obsessors were our cronies that now they see betrayal in fact we leave them to follow Jesus. They come back with hatred for us and assail us, hitting us at our weak points and dearest interests, as they were our friends and know us very well. His desire is to torment us to see to what extent we will remain faithful to Jesus, while they recognize that we have changed of some sort, even a little. But they are still likely to resume in the future, the old friendship.

See friends in our obsessors, is the key that opens the bonds of obsession.

Recognize that the proof of the obsession is a redemption mechanism changes our entire perspective on the roles we interpret in this intricate maze of animosity we find the possibility to live closely with our enemies, estimating them not as enemies, but as good opponents.

Understand pain as propulsive spring to hate should cause us to work not so much for the liberation, but for reconciliation between two friends who are suffering. Remember that often we cannot do the good directly to our obsessors because they are opposed to it because of the gulf that separates obsessor and obsessed. We found, then the value of silence and prayer, which will offer solace and hope to a heart that suffers, because in cases like these no one is happy and everyone suffers.